“Everybody wants to be a celebrity, which is why we have this phenomenon of social media, where nobody wants to be private. We all want to be seen.” – Marc Jacobs
The wave of the future is social media. Social media helps us to connect with other people, from friends to family to coworkers. It has interfered the way most people see and handle their relationships. Most people post everything about their lives on social media for a quick ‘like’ reaction.
Social media help you to interact with people when you are away from them. But, it can also cause issues within your relationship. There are definitely some things that you should never share on your social media.
Here are 8 things you should never post on social media
1 Keep your s.ex life private, not on social media
Anyone is not interested in hearing what’s going on between you and your partner. If someone did, you’ll be not listening to them at first place. You may like to talk about what a great job your partner does in bed, but, keep it as a secret or share them only with your besties. Don’t talk your private things out in the open.
2 Don’t post personal information about your partner
“You can post things that are personal about you if you want, but don’t post things that are personal about your significant other because it becomes an invasion of their privacy,” said the clinical sexologist and relationship expert Dawn Michael, PhD. You need to keep private about your secret things, such as your nightly routines or whether or not you sleep with a stuffed animal. Your partner will not like if you share those private things all over social media even if it’s something that you find completely endearing. Always try to keep personal details as a secret even if your partner has OK’d it.
3 Refrain from telling the world about your arguments
Don’t post your arguments publicly as it will invite people who aren’t involved into the argument and also it will be embarrassing for the both of you. Michael said that, “Never put your significant other down on social media, or talk about a fight that the two of you had or are having. When that argument is over, you may seriously regret saying anything because now people are going to have a negative impression of your partner.”
You should try to keep arguments between yourselves without giving publicity to it. Your friends and family will take your side, and they will imagine an unfair picture of your partner. If the argument stayed between both of you, you’ll be much happier once the fight is over.
4 Unapproved pictures of your significant other without permission
Don’t post pictures of your partner sleeping in a funny position even if it may be cute and endearing to you. It will be something that your partner may not really enjoy. But of he gives you the permission to post it you’ll know that you’re both having fun and enjoying the recognition the picture gets.
5 Don’t post mean jokes about your partner
The marriage and family therapist Aaron Anderson said, “When you bring funny things your spouse did up in the right circles, there’s no harm done. But when you post their screw-ups on social media, there’s no context behind it and there’s no filter for what crowd they get shared with. Regardless of how cute you thought it was, your spouse may not want your mother or your college ex to know about it.”
You’ll be able to make mean-spirited jokes to your partner in person and they’ll tell you’re just teasing them. But, it’s not the same over social media. You won’t be able to control the tone and intent of the joke when you put a mean joke about your partner on social media. If you want to tease your partner, keep it to text messages.
6 Don’t post passive-aggressive complaints about your partner
If you put a stumbling across a vague post about your partner, it will make them feel bad and also it’ll put a dent in your ability to communicate. Let them know if you have a problem with your partner. If you can talk, you will be able to work it out faster than posting them on social media. It’ll keep other people out of your drama too.
7 Refrain from posts that are clearly seeking validation
Everyone is waiting for the notifications every time they post something on social media. Don’t post things that seek validation about your partner such as whether or not you two are compatible and pictures of you two kissing. You only want the happiness between both of you. You’ll be much happier after you learn to ditch the validation.
8 Stop posting disparaging posts about your partner’s ex
Keep the unwanted talk to yourself, even if your partner’s last relationship was a total disaster. It’ll make you look insecure in your relationship when you post something about your partner’s ex.
According to relationship expert Neely Steinberg, “It may be tempting to comment on your partner’s ex — especially if he or she is meddling in your relationship — but airing your grievances on social media is just passive-aggressive. Keep these matters between the two of you; your 1000 friends don’t need to know.” Be happy that, your partner has chosen you over any other people and leave past relationships in the past.
Social media has a lot of fun to enjoy and it’s a great way to connect with people. You can show off your relationship a little in the right ways. So, try to avoid posting things about your relationship on social media. If you keep your personal things to you, your relationship will be stronger. After all, no one needs to know about your personal things.
