It’s always an exciting thing when a new relationship is beginning. Firstly, two people are getting attracted to each other, then discover more things about each other and after all the relationship slowly grow. Everything about a new relationship is thrilling and novel.
When the relationship begins matured, the hard time also begins. If you want to make the relationship work, the phase of everything being a new adventure is almost over and you have to concentrate switches. But, still, there will be exciting things that are not as common. It’s easy to become complacent with another person and take them for granted past a certain phase.
Growing and maintaining a long-term relationship is not easy, it requires some work. But, it’s incredibly rewarding. When you see other people grow, building a new career, buying a house, starting a family, or sharing your life with someone is really wonderful.
These 8 simple rules will help your relationship last:
Create a shared dream for your life.
With the day to day work such as paying bills, cleaning the house, working long hours, and taking care of each other responsibilities, you will lose sight of the main reasons for being together.
“Successful couples quickly develop mindfulness of ‘us,’ of being coupled…they have a shared vision, saying things like, ‘We want to plan to buy a house, we want to take a vacation to such-and-such a place, we like to do ‘X’, we think we want to start a family at ‘Y’ time.’”- Dr. Jane Greer, a marriage and family therapist in New York City.
The best time to do this is the beginning of the marriage as it’s the most beneficial time. By doing, it sets a solid foundation to build a healthy life together. Shared planning also can help you to make the dream a reality.
Maintain a physical connection.
Physical intimacy is far more than just physical in any long-term relationship. In the relationship, it’s also important to maintain the health of your emotional connection. The physical act of love is a thing that only both of you share and revel in. if you drift apart, it’s also important to reignite the passion and bring you back together.
It is easy to spark this physical connection in the beginning as with most elements of a relationship. It’ll make difficult with work, finances, kids, home, physical changes, and whatever else.
If you want to keep the passion flowing, making the focus on intimacy with your partner is a great way. And as you continue to re-discover your physical attraction to each other the stresses that come with work, finances, and family will only be a small obstacle.
Keep communication lines open
You definitely know that communication is important in a relationship.
“Communication is the common denominator in everything involved in a relationship”, just consider this for a moment. Communication happens at the beginning, middle, or end phases of a relationship. Basically in everything, big or small, buying a car or home, selling a land, sharing emotions, wanting kids, forgetting to pay the bill, taking the garbage out, making dinner, everything happens with effective communication.
Communication is an important factor in understanding each other. You may think that you know all know about your partner, but you may not know about their day. They may overwhelm, feeling sick, unappreciated, or a hundred other things they may be thinking or feeling, but you may not know all those things. Open communication is the best way to maintain a balanced relationship.
Good communication is having the ability to tell your partner anything, whether it’s good or bad. But, we don’t like to hurt each other’s feelings by being abrupt and straightforward. You have to be honest whether you do or don’t feel like it as it is part of open communication.
Emphasize the positive.
We all are a little bit backtracking to communicate but don’t forget to appreciate the other person. Emphasizing the positive is relatively easy when the attraction to other person sparks fly when compared to a 10, 20, or 30-year marriage. That’ll be very easy when things are doing well. It’s really important to tell your partner about the things that you appreciate about them.
The best time to appreciate your partner is when relationships get stressful and busy. Tell your woman that she’s beautiful no matter what. If you man works hard to provide for the family, don’t forget to appreciate him.
Anticipate change
Research has proven that every partner will change in some way every 7-8 years. There will be any kind of difference in your partner’s body or mind, maybe drastic or minuscule.
Even though the personal change is a natural process, we don’t accommodate for these changes in relationships. It’s better if you can assess where you are at and let the other person know what you want. Troubles will always happen if you don’t communicate this change.
So, let both of you what you are thinking and feeling and be honest. Know that this change is inevitable and it is applied to both of you.
Learn to compromise.
Both of you will sometimes have two different viewpoints. This will be more evident when you are at the point of making a decision. All the time you won’t be agreeing. When there’s a disagreement, don’t make space it to become a full-fledged argument. You can have a calm and rational discussion.
You should be empathetic and thoughtful on the other person’s view on something. Wait until the other person finishes the saying before becoming defensive. Just ask questions for clarity if you are unsure about why your partner thinks the way that they do.
Allow each other to decide on smaller decisions. If you select the place to have dinner, allow your partner to choose which movie you will see.
Apologize when you’re wrong
If you can admit the mistakes you do, it’s the better way of making the relationship last. If you make any mistake, a small or big one, simply apologize to your partner. if you be stubborn and insisting that you were right while you were the one who did the wrong is much worse than the blunder itself.
Just “I’m sorry…” isn’t enough while your partner is walking away. Sincerity and eye contact are important elements of an apology. Keep away your pride and say your apology as you meant it.
You should also try to accept each other’s apology. If your partner apologizes to you with sincerity accept them with the sincerity and move ahead.
Don’t give up
Resiliency is a major fact in making a relationship last. Even though incorporate all of the above factors; if you aren’t steadfast in your relationship it risks failure. Make everything happen to keep a lasting relationship even through the difficult times.
Every relationship is not perfect. It doesn’t matter how great a relationship appears from the outside, there are always going to be trials. The relationship is something that sharing a life with a different person.
Even a long-term relationship is beautiful, it isn’t easy. It’s supposed to be overwhelmingly worthwhile and it’s not supposed to be easy. We think this article will make your relationships more beautiful and long-lasting.
