Basically, narcissists are selfish people. What’s best for them will motivate them but not what’s best for others.
You should first identify the signs of their hurtful tactics to know whether you’re affected by a narcissist.
If you want to improve your emotional and mental well-being, the best self-affirming thing that you can do is staying away from a narcissist.
11 Signs That These People Try to Manipulate You:
They aren’t able to control their emotions and aggression
Experts have said that narcissists are not able to control their emotions, behaviors, overt aggression and verbal aggression.
You don’t have to be a victim of the abusive tendencies of narcissists and remember that you do deserve better. So, don’t get into an unsafe situation with those people.
We can easily identify a physically aggressive person, but it is more difficult to identify a psychological aggression. These are the signs that you can identify a psychological abuser:
- They push you to do things that you do not want to do,
- They control behavior,
- They control your access to family and friends,
- They withhold emotional, financial or physical support,
- They denigrate language,
- They threaten you,
- They make you feel afraid and intimidate you.
They are verbally abusive
They always use insulting words and let you to manipulate you. They like you to feel small and fearful. It’s better if you can stay strong in the face of this kind of behavior. You keep your voice calm and let them do the same. If in case they don’t do it, don’t talk to them.
They try to make you feel unworthy or inferior
They make you feel that you aren’t good enough to please them. They like to make you feel unworthy or inferior.
They try to make you feel ashamed
There’s another way that they use to manipulate you by making you feel less valuable and belittling. They would make you feel ashamed of your education states, physical appearance, and social class. They’ll be thrilled with that.
They use gas lighting techniques to make you doubt your sanity
Gaslighting is an insidious way used by narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths. This will make you doubt your own sanity. Just think that if you tell a narcissist person that you don’t like what they said to you in front of others, they’ll surely deny it, say that you’re wrong, and prove that it didn’t happen, even if you provide any proof to support your claim.
They play the victim
They’ll say that ‘I cannot win with you’. It’s another tactic they use. They play the victim to console themselves and justify their inflated ego.
They use brainwashing techniques to manipulate you
Brainwashing is called manipulation and modification of a victim’s beliefs, emotions, and attitudes. If you become the victim, you may don’t have enough space to mentally defend yourself and it will make easier to the narcissist to control you. They also make you do such things that you do not want to do for them.
They often bring in a third person in a conversation to prove that they’re correct
They can bring a third party to prove that they are correct. They would convince someone to support them and make you the wrong person. So, you’d also bring a witness to prove that you’re right.
They do not listen to you and often turn the topic back to themselves
Narcissists may not listen to you as they believe that everything should be about them. They suddenly change the topic back to themselves and cut you off when you’re speaking.
They behave inappropriately
Scientists have examined the everyday teenage narcissist behavior and the other teenagers and said that narcissists behaved in less agreeable and more extroverted ways than others. Also, they used more sexual language and skipped class more.
They often accuse you of actions and intentions that don’t belong to you
Narcissists often like to criticize and blame you for everything they do. They even blame you of action that don’t belong to you, and that belongs to them.