Every one may think that they are ready for love at any time and they only need the right partner. There are few ways that you are self-sabotage at your own desires, when it comes to a healthy relationship.

Here Are Ten Behaviors That Prevent You from Finding Genuine Love:

 – Your Childhood Years Weren’t Happy Ones

In case your childhood years weren’t happy ones, then it may take too much healing before you can find a healthy relationship.

If your childhood wasn’t a memorable one, then it will always take time to heal. You must forget everything if you want to start a relationship and make it a healthy one. Psychologists have said that the way you have learned to love is the way you show it to your girlfriend/boyfriend. It helps to make the bond a stronger or a weaker one. People with avoidant or anxious attachment styles had fewer positive emotions and more negative emotions in their relationships, while,  People with stable attachment styles had the least negative emotions as well as the most positive emotions in their relationships. This has been shown by the researches at the Texas A&M University by analyzing 145 dating couples.

– You Find It Difficult to Trust

You must always believe that you can end up in a good relationship. You must trust yourself if you are finding a true love. You must be open to people when sharing ideas and identifying them. If not it will prevent you from finding a good relationship that you have been waiting for.

– You Often Repeat the Same Pattern in Your Relationships

You might have gone through a worst relationship in the past, and if you don’t change some of your old patterns in your new relationship, Remember that, you should never repeat old patterns of unhealthy relationship behavior. Before you go for a stable relationship you must have a lot of personal growth. You should never live in the past. You should be happy in your present moment with your partner.

University of Georgia and the University of Rochester have conducted some researches to examine relationship satisfaction and mindfulness. They concluded that greater practice of mindfulness predicted lower relationship overall stress; and enhanced stress coping efficacy and relationship happiness. It means that you have to try to let go of your past, and avoid worrying about your future to stay mindful as well as aware of the joy that’s found in every moment with your partner.

– You Believe You Must Give up Who You Are to get into a Relationship

You must always be able to express yourself and who you are. Your partner must be able to accept you the way you are. You must never change yourself completely to get into a relationship.

– You pursue somebody that’s Not Single 

You may sometimes find yourself loving a person who is not available. They may have had a spouse and they have left them at the present, but still you may have prevented yourself from finding a genuine love.

– You Are Afraid of What Would Take Place In Case You Found the Right Person

People who are single always have a fear within them of losing their freedom when they are in a relationship. You may also be scared of loosing another romantic partner that can be way better than the person you have now or may come along when you’re unavailable.

– You Have Low Self-Esteem 

Your low self-esteem may prevent you from meeting the right person. It is difficult to love somebody else unconditionally until you’re able to say the same about your relationship within yourself. That’s why you should focus on yourself first. Next, you can look for a romantic partner.

– You Are Stuck in the Resentment, Regret, or Negativity about Your Past Relationships

You may be stuck in the resentment, regret, or negativity about your past relationships. You must let them go and be strong to face any obstacles in your life. It may also prevent you from finding a good relationship. Nobody wants to be with a person that’s only focused on the negative things. Therefore, you should learn a lesson from your past love stories, grow, let go, and open yourself up to positives.

– You Have Very High Standards

Are you waiting for a person who has high standard? Or for a never-married doctor. Who is in his 40’s and has perfect abs and a mansion? In case you are looking for somebody that’s either out of your league or that’d have no reason to find value in you as a partner is a reason you have not found a stable relationship.

– You Label the Negative Behavior of the Person You Are Dating and Ignore Their Positive Traits

The Double Dip, Man Hands, and Close Talker were all reasons that characters on the TV show Seinfeld dumped their dates. In case you give your date’s deal-breaker status based on their negative behavior, it’s not fair. In case you label the negative behavior of your partner and ignore their positive traits, it won’t give them a fair deal. It may prevent you from finding genuine love. So, you should focus on the positive aspects of your next partner. Everyone is not perfect, but they can be perfect for you. You must always try to talk on the issues and sort out them without pointing at them always. To have a healthy relationship, you must always accept everything and change it to a way you both are happy with.

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